When I was married to my first husband, we were invited every summer to join his parents and their big extended family for a week in Cape Cod. Everyone would get together and have a Cape Cod vacation rental cottage within walking distance of each other and have a great family reunion at the beach all week long.
My husband never wanted to go to any of these, even though I DID want to go. Since he didn’t want to go, we never did go. Not once. I knew if I pushed the issue he would just pout and make me miserable with his passive-aggressive behavior, and it just wasn’t worth putting up with his crabby attitude.
We were married for thirteen years, and every year he would say he did not want to go. When we broke up, all of a sudden he started going to those Cape Cod family weeks! Wouldn’t you know it! When we were going through marriage counseling he admitted that there were a lot of times that he wanted to go and do things but declared himself uninterested and unwilling to do them simply because he knew that I wanted to do them and he wanted to prevent me from doing them. What a guy!
I’ve been to Cap Code once – to drive around the town, and never did get to leave the car. Maybe one day I’ll be able to actually go there and spend a couple of days and find out for myself why so many people like to go there!