You can imagine my surprise when my neighbor Danielle called me on the phone yesterday to ask me for my help with her daughter’s bridal shower. To be perfectly honest, I think that it is probably a breech of etiquette for her to be calling me and asking me to help her with that, (I mean, if she is the mother of the bride, should she be doing that – I thought that was the responsibility of the matron/maid of honor?) but I’m not the type of person to come right out and say something like “that’s not the “proper thing to do.” I try to get along with people, and telling them that they are doing something egregious like that just isn’t my style.
Anyway, Danielle asked me to come over to her place tomorrow afternoon and help her to fill out, address, and stamp the bridal shower invitations for her daughter’s bridal shower. She is getting married in July and they want to have the shower two weeks before the wedding.
The phone call got me to thinking about how long it has been since I’ve been involved in any way in the planning and/or preparation for a wedding. Or for that matter, even attended a wedding! To be perfectly honest, I think that the last time I was at a wedding was my very own wedding back eleven years ago! And prior to that it was probably back in 1992. Wow – that is a very long time between wedding ceremonies! For a moment I was starting to wonder why it was that it has been so long since I had gone to any weddings – should I start to do some serious soul searching about my worthiness as a friend, or what exactly is going on here.
Looking around at my friends and family, though, I realize that most of the people of my generation either have been married a long time, or have no intention of ever getting married. And our kids, well, they are just too busy having fun being single and pursuing their education and careers to even be considering getting married. Which I think is interesting, and wondering if this is a new trend nationwide, since most of these kids are already in their late twenties and up to their mid thirties. I think weddings just aren’t as important to people as they used to be. What do YOU think?